By:  Laura Grotz

 

This is a whopper of a topic and so I decided to make it a two parter.  Let me know what you think?

 

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It seems like beginnings are easier then endings, they are new, exciting, pink cloudish and signal change that’s well, embraceable.  But what about “endings,” are you as good at endings as you are at beginnings?

 

Speaking for myself and looking back over my life I’d have to say unequivocally “no.”   I don’t do endings well.  I’m not pro-active; don’t know the signs and therefore it usually isn’t pretty.

 

Here is what I do know:

• It is just as important to “plan” for endings as it is for beginnings.
• There are signs that it is time for an ending to take place.
• Beginnings with all of the responsibility and none of the authority make for lousy endings!

 

Planning:  Many of us start something with enthusiasm, excitement and energy, forgoing the thought that it could possibly ever end.  Whether it is a relationship, a project, a business or a career it bears following the saying “begin with the end in mind.”  And while we may sometimes create business plans, or life goals we seldom include endings in those plans or goals.  But when the bottom falls out of your life and your asking yourself “what happened,” reflection may indicate a failure to plan, or as they say “ fail to plan and you plan to fail.”

 

And the best time to plan that ending is at the beginning.  Think about it, when is the best time to ask that new love about endings, at the beginning!  And, isn’t knowing how potential partners have done endings in the past a pretty good indicator of how they will do them with you?

 

And for a business isn’t it best to know when you start it how you intend to end it?  Is you’re intention to sell and if so to whom?  What about a Franchise or will it be handed down to family etc. etc.

 

If planning for a career how often will you change jobs and what signals that change?  Is it just a number like “I move every 5 years” or is it the achievement of a milestone?

 

Signs:   There are so many ending signs out there for us to pay attention to but they are colored by our perception of them so then what?  Look inside!  We are so distracted by “ the truth is out there”  like Fox and Mauldar of the X Files, that we are constantly looking for the answer and signs that indeed point to the truth being out there.

 

I challenge you to rethink this and look inside yourself.  Use the tools that work the best for you such as meditation, prayer, song, it’s endless but use whatever helps you go deep inside, ask the question and wait for the answer.  Trust that you do indeed know what’s best for you.  Trust your intuition when it is speaking to you.  Don’t let your ego cloud the truth.  And remember the truth needs no defense.

 

How does one decide on an ending if you can’t hear the message inside?  Ask yourself if this is really working for you?  And then ask yourself about the results you are obtaining right now with regard to this area of your life.  Pay attention; don’t just sweep aside the results.  They are the factual data you need to make this decision.  If you minimize the results you will pay for it later.  The universe sends us messages and if we don’t pay attention to the gentle messages the universe sends “Thor” level messages and then you’ve had it!  If you let it go this far then things have a way of ending whether you want to be part of it or not.  This is what a lot of us end up with.

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